Verbal Abuse

This type of abuse isn’t physically seen on the outer skin, but bear in mind.. whats hidden hurts a deeper level than whats shown. Someone may have a cheerful, happy face while their hearts bruised, swells, bleeds, cuts, and every other words thrown thereafter feels like sprinkling salts on the torn wounds.

But I think, the real question should be.. Why would someone starts this “verbal abuse” especially in a couple relationship?

On top of all, I think.. frustration and anger from a disrespectful communication or simply lack of it. When a couple is used to talking their daily life and suddenly stop. Then, reaching the breaking point; you tend to say hurtful or belittling comments and often raising your voice.

Its normal, to be mad I mean. People gets mad. But what isn’t normal is judging the person having a psychological disorder. Bipolar and such. That is a total absurd! What kind of expertise you have to call someone so?

According to Patricia Evans, author of The Verbally Abusive Relationship, explains, “abuse victims don’t realise that the problem IS NOT theirs: it’s in the abuser’s need to dominate and control. She thinks he’s misunderstood her. She doesn’t realise that he’s not looking for understanding, he’s establishing his power over her.”

Often this type of person comes from a very strict family where the voice as a kid isn’t heard, and even when they grew up, they were just belittled as no importance in the family. Their says don’t matter. So, they lookout for someone who they could overpowered and say things according to what they think, without acknowledging whats right or whats wrong as they have never been given a choice.

What can you do?

I took advised from the expert and share it here with ya all..

Respond with: “Don’t talk to me like that” or just ignore their existence.
Listen to your own feelings and believe them, don’t believe your abuser when they call you crazy or proves you’re wrong. Because, a fool may not know the truth til they see it themselves. So, basically, no point of arguing.
Get support through friends. Talk to others.
Go to a therapist. They knew how to consults you better than the abuser.
Seek information. You arent alone, someonelse is like you too. You never know if you would make friends and ends up with somebody who understands you better and you could stand up together.